New technology, new love: Expert advice on the future of relationships

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By Lindsay Robinson By Lindsay Robinson

PHOENIX, Ariz. -- Relationship expert Michael Lindstrom joined Good Morning Arizona this morning to share some insights about technology and relationships. released their fifth Singles in America Study, which examines the attitudes and behaviors of over 5,600 singles across the nation to get a glimpse of how they view love and relationships.

Trends like texting and selfies are part of the dating dance these days. According to the study, 31 percent of singles met their last first date online in 2014, while 25% met through a friend and 6% of singles met their last first date in a bar or club. Technology is propelling dating into the future, and studies are revealing the impacts this has on relationships.

Love expert Lindstrom has the results, and he’s here to help you thrive in tech-love. Check out the statistics below to see how new technology and new media mean new habits and new rules in the dating world:

Instant messages - 34% percent of 20-somethings expect a response within 10 minutes of sending a text, compared to 31% of 30-somethings, 27% of 40-somethings, 25% of 50-somethings and 14% of 60-somethings. Men want a faster connection than women - 30% of single men expect this immediate response compared to 26% of single women.

Texting turn-offs - Both single women (54%) and men (36%) find misspellings and incorrect grammar to be the biggest text message turn-offs, and 33% of single men don't like "very short" text responses. Women don't want to receive sexts from men; men don't want to receive texts during work; and singles don't want to receive a second text until after they have already responded to the first.

Social media taboos - The top social media activities that turn singles off include: airing your emotional drama in posts (65% men; 78% women); displaying too many selfies (46% men; 65% women); and asking you to un-friend your ex (49% men; 59% women). Also, 72% of singles do not want a potential partner to use their cell phone too frequently while on a date.

Selfie-centered - 53% of single women and 44% of single men have posted at least ONE selfie in the last year - to capture a moment (61% men; 67% women), to show off where they are and what they're doing (42% men; 40% women), or to document a good hair day or outfit (19% men; 38% women). On Instagram, men are most turned on by pictures of a woman's body (58%) and women are most turned off by pictures of men showing off their body (45%). Both genders are also turned on by funny/silly photos (55%) and travel/landscape photos (54%).

So emojional - 51% of singles say they use emojis to give their texts 'more personality' and 37% say that emojis make it 'easier to express their feelings.' Single emoji-users regularly use the wink (53%), the smiley face (38%), and the kiss (27%) to flirt with a date. But limit yourself to only 1-3 emojis per text, please! Also, 52% of emoji-using singles went on at least one first date in 2014, compared to 27% of singles that never use emojis. Single emoji-users are also twice as likely (62%) as non-users (30%) to want to get married.

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