Is your sex drive in park?

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By Catherine Holland By Catherine Holland

PHOENIX -- Are you or your partner losing interest in sex?  A variety of physiological factors can impact your libido, but feeling sexy -- or not --  isn’t likely to be one of them. At least not by itself.

Job stress, money troubles, caring for a sick family. All of these can affect your sex life, or lack thereof.

Unresolved relationship problems are one of the most common killers of sex drive.  For women in particular, emotional closeness is a major ingredient in sexual desire.

A drink may make you feel less inhibited about sex, but too much alcohol can also numb your sex drive.

If your sexual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you’re getting up too early or getting to bed too late.  Or maybe you have insomnia or sleep apnea. Fatigue saps sex drive.

Parenting itself doesn’t kill sex drive, but it can be hard to find to be intimate when the kids are underfoot.

It’s hard to feel sexy if your self-esteem suffers from poor body image. Working out not only enhances your self-esteem but may also up your sex drive.

Drugs commonly linked to libido loss include antidepressants, blood pressure medications, oral contraceptives and finasteride, which you probably know as Propecia®.

Being overweight or obese is linked to a lack of sexual enjoyment, desire, and difficulties with sexual performance.

Testosterone increases sex drive.  As men age, their testosterone levels may decline slightly.  Not all men lose the desire for sex when their testosterone levels drop – but many do.

Testosterone is linked to sex drive in women, too, but there are still concerns about its long-term safety in women.

If your sex drive has dropped, it might be a sign that you’re depressed.

Many women report reduced sex drive around the time of menopause.  Menopausal symptoms, such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex, may make sex less comfortable.

Sex without intimacy is a sex-drive killer for many people. Intimacy isn’t just a code word for sex.  If your sex life is in neutral, try spending more non-sexual intimate time together alone -- talk, snuggle, and trade massages.

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