Dr. Kevin Lehman - 'Have a New Teenager by Friday'Posted: Updated:
PHOENIX -- If you're frustrated with your teenage, renowned psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Kevin Lehman suggests some poker -- parental poker.
Lehman explained what that means when he sat down with Kaley O'Kelley to talk about his new book, which is designed to teach you how you can "Have a New Teenager by Friday."
"You have to understand as a parent, you've got to be the semi-straight line because they're weird," Lehman said, talking about teens.
He also said it's OK if your teen is upset every now and then.
"An unhappy teenager is a healthy teenager," he said. "There are times they need to be unhappy."
The idea of parental poker is relatively simple -- teach your teen that their are real consequences for his or her behavior.
"Let the reality do the work for you so you don't have to work so hard," Lehman explained.
It doesn't have to be a big dramatic thing.
"This is something a parent can do," he said. "One of the best disciplines is just to say, 'Hey, I am very unhappy with what just went down here,' and then turn your back and walk away. Here's the kicker: Your kid doesn't like it when you're unhappy with what went down."
He also said you shouldn't be afraid to hit your teen where it hurts -- driving privileges -- or use "the 'n' word." Saying "No" can be a powerful thing.
"Have a New Teenager by Friday" can be purchased at Valley bookstores or by visiting www.barnesandnoble.com.