Are You Addicted to Shopping?

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PHOENIX – Are you addicted to shopping?  As I discovered while researching this, apparently it’s more common than you think and is really no different than other kinds of addictions, like alcohol, drugs, or gambling. while alcoholics can hide the bottle, shopping is almost an American pastime whether you’re in a mall or online.

Addictive behavior is common when someone is trying to mask some sort of emotional void. As with drugs or alcohol, compulsive shopping can take away negative feelings initially but the problems eventually come back, leading back to the store to soothe yourself and on and on in a vicious cycle.

So, how do you know whether your spending habits have evolved into a full-blown addiction? In some cases, it’s a clear case. For instance, a closet filled with clothes with tags still attached.

In others, it’s a fine line and not as obvious. Some people get an actual high from shopping, meaning natural feel-good chemicals like endorphins and dopamine are triggered and create an opiate buzz and that buzz can be hard to resist.

I found these signs there’s a real problem on WebMD:
• Spending over budget. "Often times a person will spend over their budget and get into deep financial trouble, spending well above their income," says Engs. "The normal person will say, 'Oops, I can't afford to buy this or that.' But not someone who has an addiction," explains Engs -- he or she will not recognize the boundaries of a budget.

• Compulsive buying. "When a person with a shopping addiction goes shopping, they often compulsively buy, meaning they go for one pair of shoes and come out with 10."

• It's a chronic problem. "A shopping addiction is a continuous problem," says Engs. "It's more than two or three months of the year, and more than a once-a-year Christmas spree."

• Hiding the problem. "Shopoholics will hide their purchases because they don't want their significant other to know they bought it because they'll be criticized," says Engs. "They may have secret credit card accounts, too. Because this problem affects mostly women, as alcoholism affects mostly men, husbands will all of sudden be told their wife is $20,000-$30,000 in debt and they are responsible, and many times, this comes out in divorce."

• A vicious circle. "Some people will take their purchases back because they feel guilty," says Engs. "That guilt can trigger another shopping spree, so it's a vicious circle." And in these people, debt may not be an issue because they're consistently returning clothes out of guilt -- but a problem still exists.

• Impaired relationships. "It is not uncommon for us to see impairments in relationships from excessive spending or shopping," says Rick Zehr, vice president of addiction and behavioral services at Proctor Hospital at the Illinois Institute for Addiction Recovery. "Impairment can occur because the person spends time away from home to shop, covers up debt with deception, and emotionally and physically starts to isolate themselves from others as they become preoccupied with their behavior."

• Clear consequences. "It's just like any other addiction -- it has nothing to do with how much a person shops or spends, and everything to do with consequences," says Zehr. "We often get the question around the holidays that because a person spent more money than she intended, does this make her an addict? The answer is no. However, if there is a pattern or a trend or consequences that occur with excessive shopping then the person may be a problem spender -- the hallmark is still loss of control. If they are no longer in control of their shopping but their shopping is in control of them, they've crossed the line."
The beginning of change:

• Admit that you are a compulsive spender, which is half the battle

• Get rid of checkbooks and credit cards, which fuel the problem

• Don't shop by yourself because most compulsive shoppers shop alone and if you are with someone you are much less likely to be spend

• Find other meaningful ways to spend time

Finally, don’t hesitate to get help. This condition is progressive and only leads to more unhappiness.  Search the Internet for counseling services near you.