Suburban Swingers Update

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Okay so I'm working on this story about suburban swingers and it's got people talking. Talking and blogging and sending me e-mails. Lots of e-mails!

It's a controversial topic that cuts to the heart of a morality debate. It also raises a lot of questions about the state of marriage in today's society. One marriage counselor I talked to said 80% of marriages fail. 80%! Why? She said it has a lot to do with sex and intimacy.

I interviewed several so-called swingers. And I have to tell you, I was surprised. These couples were not at all what I expected. I don't know what I expected, really. I guess I thought we would show up to find a really hairy guy with lots of gold chains waving us in to his love palace. Nope. Not even close.

The couples we talked to were all well put together, successful professionals. And they all have one thing in common: monogamy is not for them.

One of the men I interviewed says he is madly in love with his wife. Yet he says it doesn't bother him at all when she is intimate with another man during one of their get togethers. In fact, he says it brings them closer together and adds "spice" to their marriage, thus keeping it strong.

He also told me that, in his opionion, this lifestyle is about individuality and being open minded. In his words (and this is a direct quote), "We don't have individuals anymore. We have cookie cutter everything: houses, clothes, mentalities. Somebody comes out and tries to be an individual and it's like, 'oh no we gotta lock them up'.

I'm not a hopeless romantic, but in many ways I guess I am pretty old fashioned about love and family. While this lifestyle is not for me, I didn't walk away offended. If these are all consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone? Well? I don't know.

This story defintitely leaves you with a lot to think about: marriage, monogamy, love and individuality. It airs Thursday night at 5:00. And I expect by 5:15 my in-box will be full.